“We finally understood each other.”
After years of repeating the same conflict, naming the design-level pattern made it feel less like failure and more like something we could work with together.
Testimonials
A few words from people who have brought their relationships — and themselves — into this work. Shared with permission; some names have been abbreviated for privacy.
“It gave me hope again.”
Even coming alone, having language for both charts shifted how I approached conversations at home and softened long-standing tension.
“Clarity that cut through the noise.”
Instead of more theory, we got precise descriptions of our dynamics and simple, realistic ways to lean into them.
“I felt seen without being judged.”
Jesse held a space that was both direct and compassionate. I didn’t feel like anything about my design needed to be fixed — just understood and worked with.
“We stopped making each other wrong.”
Understanding how our decision-making works differently has been huge. We still disagree sometimes, but the blame has mostly dropped away. It’s more, “Okay, this is our mechanic — how do we want to handle it?”.
“The mechanics made it practical.”
I’d read about Human Design before, but seeing our charts applied directly to the way we argue and make decisions finally made the system feel grounded and usable.